I wrote and rewrote my original letter to you (now “Classic”), many times, over more than a decade. If you have read and understood it, then it’s served its purpose. If you haven’t read or understood it, then start there, because it’s just the tip of the iceberg.
You should first know your past if you want to attempt to understand your future.
Since you are an adult now, even though you still have a lot to learn, and probably unlearn, I can write to you as an adult.
I’m no longer concerned about what Lucia Paola Corrales Ortega will do to hurt you. Intentionally raising a child without their father, for no reasonable excuse, is a level of malice that is hard to beat. The damage she did, has been done. You are the one that has power over her, finally, and you need to learn that as soon as possible, if you haven’t already.
I‘m very sad that you haven’t contacted me, yet. I know all the possible reasons, which is why it’s so heartbreaking.
I understand that you feel bound by your mother’s restrictions and conditioning against me. That’s expected. I had hoped that by the time you were 10 years old, I would have heard from you, but I guess your mom planned this destruction, long before I figured out what she was doing. I honestly didn’t think your mother would be as bad as she became. I’ve worried for you, your whole life. My only consolation is that it’s still possible that you are a good and smart person. If so, please contact me.
One thing that seems to be true, is that you’ve been forcibly kept off social media, entirely. I think that will benefit you greatly in life. Your mother and I agree on this, even if our reasons for agreeing on this are totally different.
She kept you off social media, to keep total control of you and to hurt us both. That is a bad reason, but it’s her reason.
The good part of it, is that you’ve had a chance to interact with people in real life, more than most at your age, and not get sucked into the derangements that have been going on in social media for your whole life. People like your mom can get sucked into mutilating their own kids into deranged trannies and such. It’s pretty horrific. At one time, I never would have thought your mother could get sucked into something like that, but she always did have a thing for doctors. If a doctor told her that taking cyanide would be good for her, she would do it. She would always take any drug a doctor told her to take. I hope she didn’t pass that idiocy on to you and force you to take drugs whenever you got sick. I expect that she did, but a father can hope.
So now. What are you up to? What’s going on in your life?
I’ve heard that you might be interested in horse riding. That’s cool. Lucia and I rode horses in Arequipa when I was there a long time ago, and I’ve ridden in the Rocky Mountains and on beaches and such. It’s a nice way to get around. I never got to know a specific horse well enough to feel like it did exactly what I told it to do. They were all just trail horses. If you are into riding, I hope you’ve gotten to know a good horse, well, which is the key to a good rider.
I still prefer a good supermotard, though, in most situations. With electric technology nowadays, you can get the silence from a motorcycle that in the past you could only get from a horse. Motorcycles are cheaper too.
Some other things that you should know. Money or care has never been an issue for you. Your mother knows this, but she fights hard to pretend that her situation, is your situation. She wants you to think that I never provided money for you, or as she likes to call it, “care” for you. It’s a pretty evil lie for a mother to engrain in a child, but I have no doubt that she has successfully lied to you about this, for many years. I expected that.
You have unlimited opportunities. Your mother has chosen an evil path for herself; she didn’t have to. You have not yet chosen a path; you have just been forced down one. Do not believe your mother’s lies about me not caring or not being willing to pay for you or whatever other nonsense she has come up with over all these years. I’m sure that she has layers upon layers of lies at this point, in this regard.
Your mother failed in her primary responsibilities, like birthing you through her birth canal, breastfeeding you, and making sure to keep your father close.
My role at this point, is to make sure you are ready for life, now that you are not a baby.
Even so, I hope you are having a great life and want to be and do better. Come spend time with your father and the rest of your family. Your cousins will likely be around, but your Grandmother, Grandfather, won’t be around if you wait too long. Your aunt would like to meet you, too.
I travel a lot, but it’s never been an issue for you to come visit me wherever I am, except for you mother. She has always been your only obstacle. That your mother has somehow struggled to take care of you is a total lie. I don’t know that she has fed you that particular narrative, but it’s the common one that mothers like her tend to adopt, so I assume that’s one that she has adopted.
Whatever you choose to do, just know that I always wanted to raise you. I always wanted Lucia to be a good wife, a good person, and a good mother. I always wanted to have a normal family with the three of us, more siblings for you, and our extended families. The hurt from your mother is still present for me, sometimes, but I hope you put your hurt away for a bit, too, and deal with it once we are in contact again. No one should have to go through their whole life without their father. You’ve done that, so far, only because your mother desired that, and it’s not a good reason. You never deserved that, and now, at your age, you finally have the ability to change it.
As always, I can’t wait to hear from you, to see you, to meet with you, and to help however I can.
Your Dad,
-Erik Stone