I wrote and rewrote my original letter to you (now “Classic”), many times, over more than a decade. If you have read and understood it, then it’s served its purpose. If you haven’t read or understood it, then start there, because it’s just the tip of the iceberg.
You should first know your past if you want to understand your future.
Since you are an adult now, even though you still have a lot to learn, and probably unlearn, I can write to you as an adult.
I’m no longer concerned about what Lucia Paola Corrales Ortega will do to hurt you. The damage she did, has been done. You are the one that has power over her, finally, and you need to learn that as soon as possible, if you haven’t already.
Unless you want to talk about it, I’m done telling you about the damage that your mother has done to us.
So now.
I‘m very sad that you haven’t contacted me, yet. I worry about why you haven’t. I know all the possible reasons, which is why it’s so heartbreaking.
I’m pretty sure you haven’t had the worst life, and I hope there are a lot of great things in your life. I hope that there are great and fun things that you have done.
I’ve worried for you, your whole life. My only consolation is that I know nothing about who you have become, so it’s possible you are a good, smart person.
One thing that seems to be true, is that you’ve been forcibly kept off social media, entirely, as a child. I think that will benefit you greatly in life. Your mother and I agree on this, even if our purposes had different motives.
I hope you are having a great life and want to be and do better. Come spend time with your father and the rest of your family. Your cousins will likely be around, but your Grandmother, Grandfather, won’t be around if you wait too long. Your aunt would like to meet you, too.
I also hope you got to know your great grandmother on your mom’s side a little bit before she died. She was an awesome great grandma to know.
You have tons of great opportunities and most of your life is ahead of you. It’s going to be a bit of a rollercoaster (which your mother said she did not like), but I think you’ll like rollercoasters if you haven’t already ridden on one.
I’ve missed you for your whole life, and I know you’ve missed me, too.
Only you can repair our relationship. It’s a lot to handle at your age, and in your circumstance, and you have a lot of things that may seem more important in the short term.
Just know that I always wanted to raise you. I always wanted Lucia to be a good wife, a good person, and a good mother. I always wanted to have a normal family with the three of us, more siblings for you, and our extended families. The hurt is still present for me, but I hope you can put your hurt away for a bit, and deal with it once we are in contact again. No one should have to go through their whole life without their father. You’ve done that, so far. You never deserved that, and now, at your age, you finally have the ability to change it.
I can’t wait to hear from you, to see you, to meet with you, and to help however I can, as always.
Your Dad,
-Erik Stone